By Emily Morrone
Screentime is always a difficult thing to establish for our children and even for ourselves.
Having the internet at our fingertips can be such a useful tool and it can bring glory to God, but it can also be something that distracts us from God and opens our eyes, minds, and hearts to things that are dangerous to our mental health and our relationship with God. Carefully considering how to manage this tool is so important in today’s world.
In the book, Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Whitmel Earley, Earley said, “The fight for screentime is the fight for formation.” Each day, we are being formed. Do you ever stop to wonder who or what is forming you and your children?
Slowing down and paying attention to what we are reacting to is such an important aspect of healthy functioning. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
“Screens are incredibly formative because they convey stories and images that captivate our imaginations.,” Earley said. Noticing what is influencing your children and setting limits on screens as needed is a healthy reaction to this reality. The fight for formation is always worth it!
Here are some good questions to ask your children when it comes to their device:
- What is the best part of using your device?
- How exactly do you use your device?
- Are there ways you use your device to glorify and worship the Lord?
We know there are times children will need to be corrected when it comes to their phone usage. But when talking with them about screentime, try to talk in a way that invites dialogue about why they want to use screens. Answer them when they ask why you limits. Be curious with them about what the like to do on their phones. This can help them with helpful awareness of themselves and of what is forming them.
